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Why Do Chefs Lose Their Tempers?

By Chef Jeffrey R. Gear

There’s an old saying in kitchens: “If you can’t handle the heat, get out.” But what happens when the chef — the one meant to lead the brigade — is the one who’s burning up?

We’ve all seen the fiery chef trope: shouting orders, slamming pans, veins bulging under the pressure of a dinner rush. But this isn’t just TV drama — it’s often rooted in the real world of professional cooking.

So, why do chefs lose their tempers?

1. Because the kitchen is a pressure cooker.

Literally. Chefs juggle heat, speed, sharp tools, and time constraints. A single mistake can delay an entire service. Every second counts, and when perfection is non-negotiable, tempers ignite fast.

2. Because chefs are perfectionists.

A plate is more than food — it’s pride, art, and identity. When someone else’s error threatens that, it feels personal. It’s not just about overcooked salmon — it’s about letting standards slip.

3. Because fatigue breaks down patience.

16-hour days, no real breaks, constant demands. The physical exhaustion, mental strain, and emotional toll of hospitality is real. And under those conditions, even a calm chef can boil over.

4. Because the pressure comes from every direction.

Owners, customers, critics, staff shortages — chefs often absorb the stress from all sides. And sometimes, the release valve is a raised voice, whether they like it or not.

5. Because that’s how many were trained.

The old-school brigade system bred chefs to be hard, unyielding, and loud. Many were taught that yelling meant leadership. But times are changing — and that’s a good thing.

So… is this okay?

Not really. The industry is evolving. More chefs are leading with respect, not rage. Mental health is becoming part of the conversation, and the best kitchens today are those built on trust, not fear.

 

Chefs lose their tempers because they care deeply. But passion doesn’t have to equal pain. The future of food is about culture — not just cuisine.

Let’s build kitchens where calm is power, and leadership is earned, not screamed.

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Chef Jeffrey R Gear